Whilst going through the process of planning and attending a funeral, funeral directors are on hand to help organise, give advice and support you and your family through these times. After the funeral service, you may want to send your acknowledgements and gratitude to the undertakers that helped you through the process but you may be unsure of how to word it or what format you should say thank you.
Although it is a nice gesture to do so, you shouldn’t feel obliged to write a thank you note to your respective funeral home but if you do, we’ve created this guide to help you choose appropriate wording as well as other factors to consider when writing a thank you note.
Do you send a thank you note to a funeral home?
Some people have different ways of showing their appreciation so you shouldn’t feel pressured or obliged to send a thank you note or card to a funeral home. Funeral directors can be involved with the organisation of several funerals at any given time so they won’t take it to heart if you choose an alternative way of expressing your gratitude – this may be a face-to-face conversation after the conclusion of the funeral service.
How do you thank a funeral director for their service?
If you feel emotionally ready to send a thank you card to a funeral director but are struggling to find the right words, we’ve listed some steps to consider when thanking someone for their contribution.
Beginning the thank you note
You may want to begin the thank you note with a simple greeting such as ‘Dear NAME’ and a sentence expressing your appreciation.
Middle section of the note
Writing to the funeral director from your heart is always the best way to thank a funeral home – they have been involved with your family during a very personal and emotional time and it is advisable to write on how you feel appropriate. It is acceptable to be more personal in the thank you note than you would typically be for a thank you note to a business or other service.
Indicate that you appreciate the funeral director and the staff of the funeral home for all of their help in preparing the arrangements for the funeral service and the burial or cremation. If there were specific special touches that helped you and/or family members deal with the death, mention those events – knowing what helped your family can help the funeral staff to better assist families in the future through their grieving process.
Finishing the thank you note
Ending the thank you note by stating that you were happy with the services that you received and that you would happily recommend the funeral home to other family members and friends when the need arises, will be one of the best ways to end a thank you note to a funeral director.
Finish the note with an additional thank you and your signature. If the note is from a family as a whole rather than a specific family member, it is reasonable to sign the note “The SURNAME Family.”
Examples of thank you notes to funeral directors
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